Self Esteem: Friends – Grow or Go

Plato once stated, “People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person, or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die”.
In your everyday life you are surrounded by a variety of people. Having friends certainly boosts your health, but choosing people who make you feel more positive increases the benefits. Are your friends negative? Do they complain most of the time? Do your friends talk only about themselves? Be very particular about who you spend your time with. Surround yourself with more loving, positive, supportive people… the kind that make you feel good.
People who are negative, demanding or just plain mean are toxic. They are not only toxic to your physical health but your mental health and to your soul. These types of people suck the life right out of you, making you feel tired and drained. Your well-being can easily be influenced by those around you and your moods and feelings become contagious. While it can be comforting to vent with others in similar life situations, you must refrain from complaining and projecting negativity all the time. It is not healthy.
You are allowed to eliminate toxic people from your circle of friends and fill your circle with more positive people. And as you do so, you will notice your quality of life improve and your pain decrease. You will begin making better decisions. Surround yourself with positive people as much as you can. Be a positive, supportive person. Positive attracts positive.
Think more deeply about the people you interact with. Work toward filling your life with others that cultivate healthy and positive relationships. It may not always be possible but in your personal life, you can take control over the people with whom to surround yourself. Stop relationships or lessen contact when you realize someone is toxic for you. It really is not as difficult to do as we make it out to be. Take a few moments to reflect on how certain people make you feel. Do they add something constructive to, or subtract from, your life? If a friend zaps your strength, you can simply decide to tell them how you feel or distance yourself from them. The moment you are more candid about your own feelings, you become empowered.
Choose your friends with care – they create the environment in which you will either thrive or wilt. Give everyone an opportunity to be your friend, but only share your hopes and dreams with those who value them as much as you do.